Read What to Do When Good Enough Isn't Good Enough The Real Deal on Perfectionism a guide for kids Thomas S Greenspon Books

Product details Paperback 184 pages Publisher ReadHowYouWant; 16th ed. edition (December 28, 2012) Language English ISBN-10 1442950854

What to Do When Good Enough Isn't Good Enough The Real Deal on Perfectionism a guide for kids Thomas S Greenspon Books Reviews

• We have a copy of the book from this series on worry & anxiety and really like it, so I had high hopes for this book. It is well written and a fun & easy read, but it went off a cliff for me when it got to the chapter about where perfectionism originates. In a nutshell the author states that your parents made you this way by harping on your imperfections & ignoring your achievements. As someone with perfectionist tendencies myself and who is a mother to a perfectionist/gifted child, I understand how deeply perfectionist kids feel the tiniest criticism. I think most parents who have half a clue know that your child is born with a temperament and you do the best you can to help them be prepared to face the world with the temperament they have. Telling young kids their parents screwed them up is not helpful. Needless to say I will not be passing this book onto my middle-schooler.
• I love the concept of this book; however, it is so geared towards helping kids in school that it doesn't translate especially well for my seven-year-old who is homeschooled. Perfectionism affects family life, work, and education--even when there are no grades!
  
  Also, I agree with the other reviewer who was concerned that the book points to parents as the cause for perfectionism, rather than pointing to temperament as well. Having learned to better handle my own perfectionism over the years (I'm an INTJ/INFJ, by the way), I am careful to be gracious and calmly present my son's mistakes as learning opportunities, not reasons for condemnation. I try to postpone corrections for a later time, so he can focus and remain calm. But he is less forgiving of himself. In my own struggle, perfectionism hasn't been about my parents. It's been about whether I find my value in God's love for me or in my own accomplishments.
• Bought this for my daughter who seems to worry about anything/everything. Letting her work through the book on her own time but I have noticed a slight change in her day to day moods/actions so I think it may be helping. Shipped/arrived fast!
• My son (7) loves this book too. He's gifted and a perfectionist, so I put it on the shelf for him to read when he wanted to since at 7, he won't do what I suggest anymore. -) I caught him reading this one, so I asked him if he'd liked it and he said that he did and would like to read it again.
• I started to read this to my granddaughter who suffer from these issues due to a step father who always put her down when ever he would get a chance. I just started to read it to her and she Nana that is how I feel all of the time. So a great book to continue reading to her.
• This entertaining, very well designed and printed little book is a piece of art. Its message is powerful yet so fun to read. One could hardly ask for more. It is both insightful and enlightening.
  
  Perfectionism is an insidious thing that can take so much from us, not only many lost opportunities but also the pleasure to live life to its fullest. Starting with the identification of the problem, the author explores its manifestations and how one can deal with them in a pragmatic way. All in a very readable language where the main points are never lost. The graphics also provide many visual clues.
  
  Both adults and teenagers can benefit from this book. Teenagers will have the unique opportunity to discover a problem when its solution is most readily available. Adults may be surprised to want to keep their own copy of this book. Yet you could simply not expect less. It is an outstanding book in content, form and delivery.
• So many gifted children are perfectionist this needs to be addressed by parents and their kids. This book can be read by parent and child together, or individually depending upon the age. I generally buy several of these each year and pass them out to my parents.
• a great tool for the classroom and an inspirational guide for students who feel that perfection is the key
  includes relatable stories which could educate both children and adults